Opinions differ on what turns us on in bed – and that's a good thing. However, there's one topic that fascinates everyone: squirting. At the same time, many people still believe it's simply a random phenomenon or little more than a myth. But they couldn't be more wrong. So-called "female ejaculation" is indeed possible and can even be induced intentionally. We deliberately put the term "female ejaculation" in quotation marks because not everyone with a vulva identifies as female.
What is squirting?
The term "squirting" comes from English and simply means "ejaculation." Admittedly, this isn't a completely accurate term, because instead of a shooting out, squirting is actually more about the release of a diffuse amount of fluid. Speaking of which, countless rumors surround what exactly this fluid is. The most common misconception is that the warm, thin fluid is actually pure urine. This is, of course, complete nonsense. What is known so far is that stimulation of the G-spot and the resulting arousal activate the Skene's glands, which then produce this fluid. This fluid could, in principle, serve to lubricate the vagina. In squirting, however, the fluid comes directly from the urethra. The amount of fluid released is also not uniform and varies from person to person.
It's therefore important to know that ejaculation isn't only associated with the penis, but also with the vulva or vagina. Squirting, or ejaculation from the vulva or vagina, is not necessarily linked to an orgasm. You can squirt before, during, or after an orgasm. If you're new to squirting, you'll very likely experience an orgasm during the process.
In summary: There's absolutely nothing wrong with squirting, as it's neither unhealthy nor disgusting in any way. On the contrary: Those who squirt experience their own arousal much more intensely. Squirting is therefore completely natural during sex or masturbation and is nothing to be ashamed of.
What are the advantages of ejaculation from a vulva or vagina?
The biggest advantage of ejaculation is the arousing sensation you can experience when squirting. Since most people with a vulva or vagina can only squirt if they can let go completely at the crucial moment, squirting is also incredibly relaxing and beneficial for the mind. Furthermore, you get to know your body even better and broaden your horizons.
Now for our big BUT: If you're not comfortable with the idea of squirting, that's perfectly fine. No one should pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable with. Really listen to yourself and your body. Yes, squirting can give you a new sensation, but it's certainly not a requirement for enjoying sex.
Super orgasm through squirting?
We often get asked whether people with a vulva or vagina can experience a "super orgasm" through squirting. From our experience as sex toy manufacturers, we can say that squirting is accompanied by a very arousing sensation. However, it's not the case that everyone with a vulva or vagina will automatically squirt if the G-spot is stimulated long enough. It's not that simple and requires enough practice and the right mindset. Therefore, you can have the best, most intense, and hottest sex in the world without experiencing ejaculation from the vulva or vagina.
What does squirting actually feel like?
Since a significant amount of fluid can be released from the urethra during squirting, you'll feel the urge to urinate just before it happens. This sensation can be perceived as unpleasant, which in turn reduces the relaxation (so crucial for squirting). This is the vicious cycle you can find yourself in. That's why it's so important to know that a) it's okay for fluid to be released from the urethra (so, strictly speaking, your feeling isn't deceiving you), and b) it's not urine.
Admittedly, it's not easy to convince yourself that it's okay to give in to the urge to urinate. After all, this feeling can be associated with a great deal of shame, especially if you're not alone.
What should you keep in mind when squirting?
It can definitely get quite wet during squirting. This is simply due to the fluid that is released from the urethra. There's no single answer to the question of how far the fluid will spray or how much it will be during squirting, as this varies greatly from person to person. However, as a general rule of thumb, you can expect the fluid to spray up to two meters.
If you're planning to squirt for the first time, the best thing to do is lie comfortably on your back in bed with your legs bent. Place a large towel under your pelvis to catch the fluid. Alternatively, a bathtub is also ideal.
How to Squirt with G-Spot Massage
To achieve squirting, first focus on targeted stimulation of your G-spot – for example, by simultaneously inserting your middle and ring fingers in a slightly prone, flexed position, or by using a suitable sex toy to stimulate the G-spot. The G-spot is located about four to six centimeters inside the vagina, on its anterior wall – at the same level as the female prostate – also known as the paraurethral or Skene's glands, whose ducts lie directly next to the urethral opening.
With sufficient arousal, ideally caused by simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and vagina, the Skene's glands fill with a secretion similar to male ejaculate. If, in addition to the compression of the internal clitoral radiculature and the actual flow of fluid, the secretion – with sufficient congestion – finds its way out and eventually flows out of the urethra in increased volume. The sign of an impending squirt is therefore comparable to the feeling of needing to urinate. Those who can then let go instead of suppressing the urge can actually experience the extra-wet squirt.
Our 5 Tips for More Intense Squirting
1. Take your time and create a safe, calm environment.
This is important because you need to feel comfortable when squirting, especially if you're new to it. Be patient and don't be disappointed if it doesn't work right away. Squirting doesn't happen at the push of a button, so take the time you need and simply listen to your body and your inner voice. Always do only what feels right for you.
2. Empty your bladder before the squirting session.
We recommend this so you know for sure that you don't actually need to urinate, but "only" want the ejaculate to be released from your urethra. This allows you to fully concentrate on your squirting moment.
3. Get in the mood with foreplay.
A cold start usually doesn't work for squirting (at least not for beginners). That's why it's important to prepare for squirting with intense foreplay. Start, for example, with a clitoral massage to get yourself in the mood, and then slowly insert a finger or a sex toy into your vagina. You can, of course, use lubricant if needed. When using a silicone sex toy, we recommend using water-based lubricant. So, take your time during foreplay and slowly work your way towards your G-spot.
4. Then: Stimulate the G-spot specifically – whether with your middle and ring fingers or a special G-spot toy.
Now you've reached the G-spot and can massage it precisely with pressure. Again, remember: squirting isn't a race. Pay close attention to your own sensations, how the G-spot massage feels, and whether it's even the right spot. Simply explore your vagina and don't expect too much. It's quite possible that you'll squirt on your first try, but you might also need to repeat the squirting session on another day.
5. Give in to the urge to urinate: THIS is your squirting moment!
If you slowly feel the urge to urinate while massaging your G-spot, you're close to your squirting moment. Now it's very important that you remain relaxed and simply focus. Gently squeeze your G-spot and give in to the urge to urinate. Don't worry, you'll probably only release a little ejaculate during your first squirting. This is perfectly normal, as you also need to get used to the sensation.
6. Try it again
For this reason, if you enjoyed the sensation, it's also important to try squirting again in a new session on another day. If you have already squirted a little and enjoyed the feeling and the orgasm, try to gradually get closer to the feeling of squirting through practice.
The journey is the destination.
So, ready for the practical test? Then there's only one thing left for us to say: Take your time to reach a state of complete relaxation. And try not to get too tense about it. Because despite all the justified anticipation of your squirting moment, remember: Every body is different! Not everyone enjoys G-spot stimulation, and the amount of fluid released can vary. The absolute worst-case scenario: You reach climax without ejaculating. And, phew – there are definitely worse things. Enjoy the pleasurable exploration of your body and just try it again and again and again…